Losing a person close to you leaves you feeling numb and heartbroken. However it is important to note that breakups don’t always have to be negative, it can be as simple as just drifting apart or growing out of that person.

Despite whatever label is on your relationship to a person, either platonic or romantic, a breakup can and eventually will break you at some point.

There’s a stigma around “friendship breakups”, and how they aren’t as bad compared to one with a romantic partner. However, something to put in perspective is the amount of time you spent with that person to develop genuine trust and love.

The hardest issue that comes along with breakups is replacing the attachment you once had for that person with detachment. Realizing that the one person who once was a part of your day-to-day life suddenly isn’t and no matter how much you find yourself wanting to talk to them you can’t. Wanting to reach out but having to remind yourself that it’s over is one of those feelings where you can physically feel your heart sink. 

In any kind of breakup, there is going to be an ongoing pattern of grieving. Seeing an old best friend or an ex walking down the hall and laughing with somebody new is going to cause a build-up of resentment at first. The truth of it is that you are so upset because you miss them. Thoughts of “was it that easy for them to forget about me?” is going to be a constant one that stays.

Eventually the resentment and the negative aspects, like jealousy, will fade. Sooner or later you’ll find yourself  wanting to check up on them. Whether that looks like reacting out or looking at their social media to see what they have been up to, and see what they have accomplished. 

In all honesty, it doesn’t matter your relation to the person that you’re “breaking up with”.  At one point in your life you’ve viewed them as a person who you genuinely appreciated for just being in your life leading to no contact, is equally as hurtful as any other breakup that you’re going to have in your life.